agreed. also seems like we're making it a little bit more complicated than it is... don't we all know right and wrong?
We know right and wrong, yes Alex... we opinionate as right or wrong or somewhere neutral based SOLELY on personal aesthetics.
Some prefer dark - just as a temporary taste in gaming but quickly back to their "natural" aesthetic state... if they are in a native state.
But many have been so foiled up into enforcements from others that they "can't" figure out what they can like - safely.
These are the ones who have to go lightly with meditation. They don't have the horsepower to make a decision of their own stick just for themselves - let alone as effect for anyone else to experience.
Opinion:
The way out?
Well that would be through allowing help to exist 1st.
Then allowing a freedom to express where they have personally disagreed with themselves against their own judgment. Yes. The actual physical place they have personally disagreed with themselves - it has the time already tagged there.
And let those be exactly as they are. See them. OK them. And say good bye to them... leaving them exactly as they are. Exactly what they are - incident in a time frame.
If that is too hard then spend at least a week - maybe two NO NEWS, no upsetting friends, nothing that is not calm. Give yourself a break from it.
Then try personal honesty again:
Seeing then leaving a goodbye with each place where there was/is your own personal disagreement with you.
Let it be all as it is/was.
Then let you be exactly as you are, and as you are deciding to be as of each moment you care to decide about such.