True. However I would add that people's personal beliefs and biases tend to filter that feedback in a way that they find preferable as opposed to whatever else it might actually be.
No doubt... once a person is back in the body, whatever knowledge they obtained over there gets filtered through their knowledge base here so it is colored and shaded with bias, or to use a remote viewing term: overlay.
But another reason the "judgments" may vary over there is that many of the judgments are not regarding the highest goals, but rather Soul Goals - goals of the next layer up in consciousness which might not be the highest layer.
Two great metaphors for the Soul spawning a lifespan: AI agent and sperm. An AI agent is trained on a task by running many simulations. One person's life span is like one iteration of simulation, the experiences of which add to the AI agent's ability to accomplish its goal. Your experiences are updating the AI agent (your soul) on how best to accomplish its goals, and you get feedback on how well you hit the target or how you fell short ("sinned" is an archery term meaning the arrow fell short of the target).
Another metaphor: sperm... millions of attempts at achieving the goal but only one succeeds. "It is harder for your soul to be saved than for a camel to go through the eye of a needle."
So the goals of your soul probably have many similarities to the goals of my soul, but there are probably some differences too so our judgments will vary. And it is not like the Soul has rigid boundaries either. Think of it more like concentric circles of familiarity.
Excellent observation. I'm wondering however where you fall in terms of your views on solipsism versus objectivity.
I'll try to briefly explain my philosophy which I call Patternism:
We eventually come to realize that boundaries are a choice and we start removing them until we come to the notion of Monism - that everything must ultimately be One thing. The problem is you can't talk about the One thing without paradox, so people tend to "make a graven image" of the One thing and fill in this black hole with their own preference. So the materialists are stuck on the idea that everything is composed of a bunch of dead rocks (or billiard balls). They adopted the metaphor of dead rocks because it is useful for a scientist to assume that everything is a bunch of dead rocks and now they've forgotten it was a metaphor useful only in a particular domain and not universally applicable.
The idealists on the other hand go the opposite direction and say, "No! Everything is not a bunch of dead rocks! Everything is alive! Consciousness is fundamental! Love and Light and Oneness is the answer!" And so in their Monism they fill in the black hole of Oneness with a metaphor related to their own personal experience of consciousness and love.
I prefer to say: okay if we have nominate a "substance" for a Monism, instead of calling this monistic substance material (dead rocks) and instead of calling this monistic substance Consciousness (what the hell even is that?) let's call this monistic "substance":
PATTERN. And this is really a bit of a head fake because Pattern implies THREE things which I semi-jokingly call the Holy Trinity, and while we could assign many names to the three elements of the Holy Trinity, one valid set of labels is: subject/object/choice, and voila! I have incorporated both sides of the Hard Problem into "One Thing". The Materialists focus on the Object and the Idealists focus on the Subject, but my contention is that you cannot consider either to exist independently, rather the smallest pattern which is the root pattern of all other patterns is this Trinity.
There is no pattern without
objective similarities and differences. There is no pattern without
subjective choice about where to draw
boundaries around the similarities and differences. Reality is a bit like one of those children's coloring books that has a bunch of geometric patterns which you can color in as you choose to make different pictures. The lines are objectively there but you can subjectively choose to ignore them or respect them.
Solipsism is sort of a variation on the unproductive Monisms that is flavored with epistemic inhibitions and doubt. It is a recognition that everything is floating on the abyss of nothing by faith and the unwillingness to have faith and step out on the water.
Hmm. Maybe you just answered the question I asked above. I would ask what your version of "really grokking" is, because the idea that "... everything exists by choice or will ..." might work fine for Neo in The Matrix, but we aren't in his position. Even if we're in some kind of Matrix universe ourselves, we're far more limited in our powers of perception than Neo, and even he couldn't tell the difference until he was rescued and went through his post Matrix transformation.
Since you brought up the Matrix, the Architect scene is AH! I don't have words... it is such a perfect symbolically dense explanation for what I have described above regarding the Trinity and the role of CHOICE. Another way to label the Holy Trinity is: Mechanism/Chaos/Choice. The Machines and the Architect with his mathematical perfection represents one leg of this Trinity. But this Objective Mathematical perfection lacks life - all the humans died in the first iteration because it was too perfect. Chaos or the "divine feminine" in the form of the Oracle was needed to make the Matrix work. And the result of the combination of the perfect Masculine Mechanism with the Chaotic Feminine is an "Anomaly" in even the tiniest vacuum fluctuations which is CHOICE and this ultimately results in the Matrix producing NEO (the ONE) and on his CHOICE the whole system rises or falls. So you see all three elements of the Trinity are essential for existence. Oh and of course Neo, the ONE loves Trinity.
So Pattern requires choice. As we make choices we leave behind structure which limits future choices. But we need limitations on choice in order to have choices. (you can't choose door A or door B unless there are walls and doors to begin with. It is the limitations on our Will that allows us to have goals which allows us to make choices. To put it another way, if there was no time lag between goal origination and goal fulfillment there would be no structure there would be pure chaos. It is frustration which creates goals which create choice which creates pattern/structure which creates frustration. Round and round the wheel of Karma goes.
You might need to elaborate. For some people, NDE's might eliminate the fear of death, particularly those who have experienced them, but I imagine not all of them buy into the resulting assumptions that most of the rest do. Certainly I don't. And even if I had an NDE/OOBE, I still wouldn't, because so far as I can tell, the experiences that NDE/OOBE experiencers are having are purely subjective.
Most if not all NDE experiences come back with a certainty that death is not the end of their experience and this is a great relief. I think I recall some having a hellish NDE and coming back with a kind of fear of death, but then even that person later had another NDE that alleviated that fear too.
I suppose that it's much easier to accept outcomes that give us pleasure, especially when it eliminates painful realities. But so far as I can tell, there's no reason to believe NDE/OOBE experiences represent perceptions of some larger reality beyond that of the experiencer's.
Aside from Veridical information, the fact that there is a judgement which indicates there is a feedback loop makes me believe it is an indication of a larger reality beyond that of the experiencer. The purpose of a feedback loop is to juxtapose goals with outcomes so that you can adjust your actions to get closer to hitting the target. What is the point of feedback with no further opportunities to hit the target?
In the interview I'm hearing some tenuous claims supported by a sciency mix of New Agey philosophy and quantum woo. But, I'm also one of those people who thinks happiness is overrated and would sooner accept unpleasant truths than happy delusions.
I am also a bit uncomfortable with the notion that "if we just realize we're all One all our problems will be solved" ... yes but we'll all be dead so to speak - annihilated by the Oneness. This is Cloud Cookoo land where everything is awesome and no one ever looks into their shadow. I prefer to accept the sometimes macabre nature of reality and integrate my shadow.