Same problem with this topic as other afterlife discussions, which is that the premise assumes that there is an afterlife, and that any related experiences during life represents reliable evidence of that assumption — when they don't. At some point, instead of clinging to popular assumptions about what happens to personhood post death, researchers on the subject would do better to explore other avenues for an explanation.
That being said, if these stories represent some sort of belief that helps people deal with grief, and from that perspective can be considered psychologically beneficial, regardless of whether or not the truth of the experiences correspond to the reality of the situation, then who am I to make their lives more miserable by telling them that what they think is happening cannot be what they assume it to be?
And therein lies a barricade to the objective analysis of these experiences. These situations are so emotionally charged, that it makes it difficult to frame them in any other way than how those attached to them interpret them, because if you don't agree, then you find yourself shut out of the discussion, and often attacked in some way as some sort of anti-spiritual, anti-religious, insensitive, purveyor of negativity from the dark side etc etc etc.
Now, taking that into consideration, how might we frame the experiences in a way that is plausible, without jumping to the conclusion, without adequate evidence, that they have been fabricated intentionally by the alleged experiencer? Here are the possible options:
- The experiences are subjectively genuine only — there is no correlation with any external objective reality.
- The experiences are subjectively genuine, caused by some external objective reality that isn't actually what it's assumed to be.
- The experiences are subjectively genuine, and externally caused, but all of reality isn't what we assume it to be, therefore what we assume to be continuity of personhood is illusory, regardless of whether or not there is some sort of afterlife phenomenon.
I'll let the conversation begin there, and anyone who is interested can either participate or unravel those threads for themselves.